my problem with a lot of body positivity / progressive beauty culture stuff is that it focuses on expanding the definition of beautiful rather than deconstructing the idea that physical beauty indicates worth. my difficulties with living in a body (and therefore with living, period) often come back to the fact that no matter how tightly i control my body, i am viewed as either object of disgust or object of desire (occasionally both simultaneously). i can never be neutral. i can never be subject. my difficulty with existing would not be assuaged, at least not for long, by winning the game of “beautiful.” winning is not the same as having agency or personhood. we don’t need to change the rules of the game. we need to stop playing.
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This is the best and truest thing the internet has ever given me.
Being cheerful is not unmasculine. Being kind is not unmasculine. Being passionate is not unmasculine.
Being emotional is not unmasculine. Talking about your problems is not unmasculine. Needing help is not unmasculine. Masculinity should not equate to stoicism. People should not have to feel afraid or ashamed of appearing vulnerable.
Therese Patricia Okoumou. Patriot.
if a professor brags about how hard it is to pass their class then drop the class. they should not be proud of being bad at conveying information to students. you’re not paying thousands of dollars to fail. find a professor that wants you to pass.
as a college instructor I approve this message
not enough tick hate on this website. everyone hates wasps or spiders but I rarely see issue with tiny undetectable blood sucking demons who hang out in beautiful plant-filled places and spread deadly disease with a single bite. wasps might punch you in the face occasionally but ticks will steal your lunch money and total your car and poison your food and use all the hot water and as the planet warms up these little devil suckpods are hitching rides anywhere their horrible little feet can plop themselves down and camp out for the next victim of their terrible curses.
I was a bare-foot goblin child who ran around in the woods all day, and have had ticks on me since I was a toddler. TICKS ARE HORRIBLE. Once when I was about 6 or 7 I had one on my head, under my hair, and I thought it was just a skin-tag or something but I finally noticed how BIG it had gotten. If you don’t learn to twist them off just right or use a special little tick-picking-spoon, the head of the tick stays stuck where it bit you, buries itself under your skin, and gets infected. They bite you in really sensitive and often hard-to-reach places. They travel from your pets to you, and even if you get the animals a flea/tick collar or some kind of repellent medicine, the ticks will still hitch a ride on their fur until they can crawl around and find somebody to bite
Seriously, if you have any cats, dogs, or other animals that go in and out, ask a vet what kind of collars or other kind of repellent to use (don’t use anything that might make your critter uncomfortable). Be super careful when you remove a tick, don’t just try to pull it out. Use a special tool, or twist it very slowly until it loses its grip. Don’t let them escape, these are bugs to kill (I’ve always either smashed them with a rock when they’re huge, or put them in an ashtray and burned them with a match). Also, check animals who have scabs; ticks will be drawn to the blood, and if they attach to a wound it won’t heal properly. Ticks tend to crawl around on bushes and tall grass, so this is at least one good reason to mow the lawn and trim what grows in your yard. Make sure your pets get their shots and vaccinations to avoid any of the diseases the ticks can spread, it will protect you too
also i literally do not care whether you prefer pads or tampons but the fact that in almost every situation where free period supplies are available, they’re tampons, and this is just assumed to be fine (or people like campaigning for “free tampons” rather than “free menstrual products”) upsets me bc there are a lot of people who use pads who cannot use tampons and i don’t understand why tampons are considered not just the default but the only option worth mentioning
like i’ve never been able to use a tampon comfortably and functionally. there are plenty of people who cannot use tampons or prefer not to use them, and they require a good amount of education to be used safely. that’s not to say that tampons shouldn’t be provided but that we shouldn’t be forcing people to use them bc they’re all that is offered
Never feel bad for letting go of someone that treated u like a whatever thing
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Note: hard times include things like busy schedules, deaths in the family, miscommunications, growing pains, a partner losing a job, struggles with just growing as people and a couple, etc. Getting through hard times isn’t “this person keeps mistreating me but it’s just hard times so I’ll stay.”
What is not considered a hard time:
Verbal abuse
Physical abuse
Emotional abuse
Spiritual abuse
Cheating
LyingBuffoonery
Tomfoolery
Good clarification
Tomfoolery is only acceptable if it is in the form of mutual silly short term jokes! (Pranks, in jokes and memes)
If Democrats take the House, their current ranking member of the Financial Services Committee becomes the chair of the committee, and has the power to subpoena Trump’s bank records. That member is Maxine Waters. Vote.
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